I'm pretty sure you have the same problem.
I'm starting to wonder if the fight is worth it. Will they pick up these "soft skills" as they need them, or do we have to teach them to do these things?
I say, "Show your work."
They say, "Then challenge me."
I say, "Don't forget to take notes."
They say, "Why? I'm not going to look at them again. I don't need to."
I say, "Pay attention."
They say, "Then quit talking so much."
I don't know. Maybe I've had it wrong.